Life’s important Lessons: Simple things, the right spouse and Giving

What a person learns and leaves is as individual as his fingerprints. But I found some heartening insights into common themes in this new research from Priceless Legacy, a company that turns interviews with older adults into life stories in print or video format. An analysis of its projects shows that the top five life lessons shared by people ages 65 to 104 are:

  1. The simple things matter most.
  2. Humor and time cure most pains.
  3. There’s more satisfaction in giving than getting. Service to others is the most satisfying activity.
  4. Choose your spouse carefully. It will be your most important decision.
  5. Work hard and in a field or role that you enjoy.

I am very pleased with the above lessons. Amongst the interviewees, nobody mentioned about money and success, thus, shows that they are not that important in life. What is important are the simple things in life, ie, walks in the park, eating your favorite food no matter what it is, cuddling in the living room, hugging and smiles. A lot of smiles will win you friends, and it will ease up your day. I smile a lot, and  people really smile at me back. I am sure they did not think i am funny looking, but genuinely give back a smile or two. Smile cost nothing yet it gives you so much. Try it sometime and you will see the results!

Time heals all wounds is an adage that connotes, all things shall pass, just be patient. Laughter is the best medicine, in fact in some countries, a laughing session is being  practiced to promote health.. So let us start laughing now. HAHAAAHHA!

I started giving when I was in high school. I was poor so  the only thing I could give away were answers in our exams. Boy, I had a lot of classmates who have benefited from this. Now, that I can afford to give away some money, I see to it that I give especially to people whom I know are in dire need for food and some basic needs. I have also helped people who want to go abroad, or open some  business.  There is joy in giving. When I retire, i plan to volunteer also.

This is my favorite life lesson: choose your spouse. I have chosen the best spouse in the world. I am married to a wonderful human being, not because he is generous but because we are in love with each other. Love is very important. You should marry for love, security is only secondary. No amount of money can make you happy, but love will. However, love and happiness should come from within. You need to love and be happy with yourself. If you do not, who will ever love you? Do not expect anybody to make you happy either. You are the only one who can make yourself happy.

There was no mention about offspring or children as important in the study. It only proves that children are not important either. In fact, some people admit that their children are creating a lot of problems for them. You will never know how your kids will turn out. Lucky for some their kids are great, but could be their worst enemies, too.  So, do not brag if you have children because the study above just confirmed that they are not that important.

What is most important is that you believe in yourself. Do what you can do now for yourself and  mankind, for you will not pass this way again.

Believe in yourself. Who will ever believe you if you do not believe in yourself?


Why drug addiction is rampant in the USA (My personal experience)

The latest death of a movie star has stirred the medical world again. Who should be blamed for this actor’s death? The prescriber or the actor?

The medical and dental practitioners in the USA have a bad  habit of prescribing narcotics to their patients for simple pain.  When I had  pelvic fractures in 2004 due to an MVA, the medical intern was literally forcing me to take his prescription of Vicodin, I said, tylenol is fine for me. He said, “you are the only one refusing narcotics.”  I prescribe myself, so I know the dangers of  narcotics.

When my hubby had a tooth extraction last week, the dentist ordered Vicodin . He went to an MD for some rotator cuff injury in the same week and the doctor also prescribed a narcotic Tylenol # 3 (with codeine). If I did not know any better, my hubby could have ended up a drug addict because both medications are hightly addictive. If I were a layperson, my hubby could have taken both medications for different types of pain and can end up easily six feet below the ground.

When my hubby and I went for a cruise in 2006, I heard two prominent doctors talking about how difficult it is to practice in the USA.  Both are pain management specialists and they both agreed that it is like “pushing drugs” to patients who complain of pain. The patients themselves are also asking for narcotics even before trying a lesser kind of analgesics. The big problem is that, most people in the USA can not and will not tolerate pain. They would like to treat pain before it occurs. Their tolerance to pain is zero.

My 55-year old patient recently just died. I educated him about the dangers of polypharmacy. He was on methadone, Roxanol, ativan, MSContin and numerous medications for his co-morbidities. Guess how he died? Your guess is as good as mine.

Sleep: Enough of it will make you look younger!

If it takes you more than 15 minutes to fall asleep at night, quicken your trip to dreamland by changing what you eat in the evening. It can make the difference between staring at the ceiling and sleeping like a baby.

For years, the top food on the snooze list was turkey, because it contains sleep-inducing tryptophan (credited with all those Thanksgiving naps). But researchers have done an about-face and nixed this connection. Why? Turkey, like most foods, just doesn’t contain enough tryptophan to put you to sleep, explains Elizabeth Somer, R.D., author of The Food & Mood Cookbook: Recipes for Eating Well and Feeling Your Best.

Instead, think light but high-carbohydrate snacks. Carbs boost levels of the brain’s sleep chemical serotonin without overloading your digestive system. If you like, wash them down with something warm and soothing, such as a cup of herbal tea (chamomile, lemon balm, or valerian) or warm milk.

10 top sleep boosters

Nibble on one of these 10 high-carb calmers an hour before bedtime. You’ll be yawning in no time.

  1. Half of a whole-wheat English muffin or raisin bagel drizzled with honey
  2. Two cups of air-popped popcorn
  3. A small slice of angel food cake topped with berries
  4. A frozen whole-wheat waffle, toasted, with maple syrup
  5. Half a cup of pretzels
  6. Fresh strawberries dunked in a little fat-free chocolate syrup
  7. Half a cup of pasta topped with marinara sauce
  8. A 4-ounce baked potato topped with salsa
  9. A handful of oyster crackers and a piece of fruit
  10. Canned mandarin oranges sprinkled with crystallized ginger

The benefits of sleep go well beyond good moods and lots of energy. Getting six to eight hours of sleep a night can make your Real Age as much as three years younger. (Copied only)