Crab mentality and Gossiping

Crab mentality is very much alive. In fact, it is very common in the Philippines.

No,  it does not mean being crabby nor irritable.

Crab mentality means, people try to pull you down hoping you will not fly your lovely society. It is an act of  desperation to bring you down. It is an act of jealousy or  envy. It is an act of cowardice. 10155352_544557818995969_7366304235015782274_n

Their modus operandi is usually gossiping, a favorite past time of the jobless, poor and miserable people.

They love spreading fabricated lies without proof nor evidence

when asked about proof,  they lie some more to cover the other lies


Are you one of them? No lessons learned in the past but dramas and continuation of immaturity and bitterness.

What a pity .

The older I get, the better I am, no dramas

Oh well, the low lifes are acting up again.

Not unusual,  for we have a huge event coming pretty soon. Been there, done that. These scumbags are predictable.

Nobody talks about a nobody.  Even fools have stories to tell. and  idiots know that very well.  What a pity, still jobless and poor? You can only blame thy selves.

They just want my attention,  jealousy and envy much. All talks but all empty gestures: not even a pot to pee.

They are sorry asses because they can no longer taste my money and chocolates from the USA.  Hate Americans?  , but love our $$$.

And worse, they are no longer in my circle and not even in my league.

They want their balls stroked, but in reality they have no balls.

Using regionalism ?  what a pity : I am not even bisaya.. I was born in Nueva Ecija with Tagalog and Ilocana parents. I am just all over the world.

Victim role playing, acting like victims, they do not know, they are just actually talking about themselves: narcissist and sociopaths galore. Psychiatry is my second specialty.

Besides,  I am adept at marketing and promotions. Do you even know what are the steps in making a society work?

Any publicity is good. Look at HAPI, an international society just after one year.

Instead of learning from me,  these maggots complain and bash me.

Oh well, one cannot teach green eyed monsters, snakes and termites.

Please continue to wallow in bitterness and poverty, while I retire in luxury and  HAPI-ness.



A Medical Mistake Cured by Faith in a god

I went to church yesterday with my husband. We do this at least once or twice  every few months, to give our donations. I am the atheist, but my husband remains a WASP, but really, he is the one who gets bored with the church rituals and singing, and gets annoyed with soprano voice and children’s out of tune singing.

After church, we went to the basement for some food  and baked goodies. Of course, for camaraderie and conversation.

The Pastor told us a story about the young boy who went to Sloan Hospital for some “belly tumor”. They operated on him  after an ultrasound and found nothing. They attributed the cure of that tumor  to  their faith  without ado.

I said, that must be a medical mistake.. the boy had nothing to begin with. But since, these old  church attendees are very devout,  I just said, I believe in science and there are a lot of medical mistakes, that I know  of when I was still actively practicing as an Adult Nurse Practitioner, reason being , a second and third opinion is needed when one is given a diagnosis, especially cancer. A biopsy is the gold standard to determine if  one has cancer or not, not an ultrasound or a cat scan. His story has some loopholes anyway.

However, there is not much to talk about. I leave it at that. We cannot teach old dogs new tricks, nor give medicine to a dead man.


I am finally relieved : I am now picky




A little patience goes a long, long way.

It was good that I did not drop the ball suddenly.

Planning is everything, a means to provide better things.

I am finally relieved as a chairperson, being Emeritus would be so much FUN.

I can do whatever I can to help, promote and propagate,

But, without much pressure from myself.

I am a type A – 1 personality, I like to do things yesterday and in a timely fashion.

Cannot stand procrastinators and lazy bones.

That is me.. I cannot change myself.

I did it my way.. Now show me you can do it too.

Kudos to all ! but without saying, I learned from my past experiences.

No more waste of my hard-earned money and efforts.

The right people are in order and ebullient with renewed passion.

I am very picky now, but please do not blame me.

Cheers to all!




Lucky to be retired early



I retired in October, 2015.

Such a lovely job with 6-figure income.

But, I am not greedy, I  have too much already.

What will you do if you have too much already? RETIRE.

No more waking up early,

No more appointments to go to,

No more treks to Manhattan via subway,

No more dizziness on the train.

No more driving to nursing homes in Queens,

No more driving to the Bronx or anywhere.

What to do when you are retired?

Be with my husband, travel every 2-3 months to different countries.

I am  very fortunate to have retired early.

Life is quite boring, sometimes, but, I have given my time to the workforce.

No more work, but still very comfortable in life.

Cheers to more life !!



2017 – New Year’s Resolution



2016, was lovely despite some assholes stalking me, and some snakes and termites creating issues, seeking for my attention. My covert fans trying to imitate me, but miserably failed for the last 3 years or so.

Sorry, once tested and proven, you will be left in oblivion forever.

I need more patience  in 2017.

I need to cross the T’s and put dots on “I”s before I finally relax .

Such a “slavedriver”  I am, but, I will not tell you to do anything that I would not do. What does that make me?

Great leaders lead by example and make more leaders.

I reckon, who will do the dirty laundry if all are trying to lead? Herding cats is a daunting task.

2017 is here. Opps, I forgot! I am retired and cannot decipher what date it is now.. Cheers!



Altruism : Is it still true? How do I love thee, HAPI


It has been 3 years, long enough to put a clog in my heart.

HAPI – how do I love thee? It might cost my life? and my marriage?

I must be crazy, but, is this my purpose in life?

Altruism, am I an example? or just being crazy and not thinking right.

Am I doing this for myself?  I will not even retire in the Philippines.

Truly, why do I do this activism in the Philippines?

Your guess is as good as mine.



A HAPI book: From Superstition to Reason: A journey towards HUMANISM


14803097_1686773998302733_1272893114_oA book that depicts stories of  how we became atheists or humanists is finally at the printing press.

It was a very   long journey for me, imagining this book as the only secular book in the Philippines made for Filipinos and printed in my own country of natal day since 2011.

It started as my vision in 2011, when I started PATAS, but was derailed due to some unscrupulous people and “short-lived enthusiasm” attitude  of some pinoys. Long story short, it was canned and put aside.

Came HAPI founding in 2013, we have to start all over again. But another unfavorable  set back, the person  (Aljohn L.  de Leon) assigned to the compiling in 2014, turned out to be a very shady person and a scammer. He was terminated from HAPI for fraud. He  is now being investigated by NBI for online estafa by deceit. I hope I am his last victim.

In 2015,  Alex Wisner took over the compiling and editing of the book,  very carefully due to some stories being edited, removed and updated.  We do not want plagiarized stories, you know.

Finally,  a HAPI book came out from the leadership page  in November, 2016. Thanks to a new leader, Bryan Valentino. His tenacity and tactfulness paid off. All my frustrations and negative outlook have been lifted off,  that finally a HAPI book is already at the printing press.

Needless to say, I financed this vision , some funds were mishandled in the process. This time it is clear as crystal. We will have the very first and only secular book in the Philippines, made by HAPI and its leaders.

Indeed, kindness begets kindness!


Ten lepers healed, only One came back to say “thank you”


15032883_1681308382128961_1280991592122798347_nGratitude is the mother of success.

But, alas, very few people know how to thank those who made the early movements of atheism and humanism possible.

I say, remember the ten lepers? that  is all the same,  nine will leave and forget you, while only one will remember to thank you.

No expectation is better, you will not get frustrated nor annoyed.

That is how life will take you,  better to put yourself first than others.

I learned my lessons well, now,  I feel less obliged and less guilty to help others.

I do not need fame nor fortune, and have no vested interest in the Philippines.  I will not even retire there. I do not have to do activism  in the Philippines, but the next generations need our guidance.

That is all I do.

My graceful exit : Love Conquers all



001I  have been planning for my graceful exit from my second society since September,  2016.

It is time for me to pass the torch of successful activism and advocacy  about humanism to the present  core. It is the perfect time to leave, since I have the perfect leaders who are as ebullient as I am. I wish them well to the highest degree and support the mission/vision of the society.

My husband and I enjoy going to the church that married us in 1996. Love and respect have no religious nor political affiliations.

I am very fortunate to have a husband who respects my individuality  and passion. But, of course, he wished that I stopped my advocacy few years ago.

Now is  the golden opportunity to leave while I am still alive.

I am scheduled to  leave as the Founder and Chairwoman  Emeritus of HAPI in January 2017.

I am finally free of burden and responsibility  from any organization, any society,  any job,  anyone..but, my husband.

We will be touring around the world and every 3 months, just like before.

We will be celebrating our 21st wedding anniversary in Panama Ciy, Panama,  in Central America next year.